There are various guides for the aspiring kinkster, the majority of which are American. They all have their uses, though it is often worth checking exactly when something was published if you need to be sure that the information you are getting is up to date. (You can either look in the front or check the resources guide – if it mentions kinky websites hosted via Geocities it’s probably not a contemporary work.)
THE NEW TOPPING BOOK ***OUT OF STOCK***
The revised edition of one of the two classic How To Do BDSM books by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. Extremely useful advice for all those interested in doing consensual terrible things to their playmates.
THE NEW BOTTOMING BOOK ***OUT OF STOCK***
This is the revised second edition of this kinky classic (reprinted in 2001) full of useful ideas, both for those who yearn to submit and those who are interested in what makes their desired submissive tick.
THE DOMINANCE PLAYBOOK
A new (published 2019) and exciting take on power exchange relationships. It is deliberately written in a way that includes straight, gay and genderqueer people, to the extent of frequently using neopronouns, and the author warns early on that it is perhaps not the most accessible guide for an absolute beginner, but there is plenty to explore and enjoy.
£17 free p&p
THE ETHICAL SLUT ***OUT OF STOCK***
Janet W Hardy and Dossie Easton
Originally published in 1997, this book was an absolute groundbreaker in terms of bringing the concept of polyamory and monogamy-free living to a wider audience. The edition in stock is the most recently updated (published 2010) and well worth a read if you’ve ever fancied exploring the wider world of open relationships.
£12 free p&p
THE HUMAN PONY ***OUT OF STOCK***
The most thorough and comprehensive guide to human ponies, pony carting, the training and outfitting of a pony and everything else the pony-minded could desire. Plenty of gorgeous photography as well as guidance inside. This was originally published a few years ago, but the information is all still relevant.
£24 free p&p
PLAYING WELL WITH OTHERS ***OUT OF STOCK***
Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams
While this is a US book which mainly addresses the US kink scene, the vast majority of the advice in it is sensible and useful for anyone who is interested in exploring kinky stuff with other people. It takes in what to expect from your first munch, how and when to look for playmates (and when not to). how to make yourself popular – and how to find a way of engaging in kinky stuff that suits you. The authors emphasize repeatedly that there is no One True Way to be a happy pervert, and encourage everyone to do what works for them and whoever they do it with,and to be considerate of themselves and other people.
£17 free p&p
HOW TO BE KINKY *****OUT OF STOCK*****
A very thorough guide to kink for the newcomer, but interesting to the more seasoned pervert as well. Illustrated throughout with colour photos of a fairly diverse range of humans, too. For UK readers, some of the resource guide may not be relevant as the author and publisher are US-based but the rest of the information is worth acquiring.
£20 free p&p
HOW TO WRITE AN AWESOME ONLINE PROFILE
A useful little book about presenting your best self online. While it is mainly (like all Sharyn’s work) aimed at heterosexual submissive men, there are some hints and tips about making yourself appealing that could be useful to anyone putting themselves out there in the hope of finding new playmates.
£7 free p&p
HOW TO FIND A DOMINANT WOMAN
Another direct, straight-talking guide to getting the type of relationship you want if femdom is your thing. It has some helpful info for submissive men but also works as a useful guide for dominant women who are still finding their feet on the kink scene.
£7 free p&p
HOW TO MAKE YOUR FIRST BDSM SCENE AMAZING
As with the other two books, this is concise, useful and basically does what it says on the cover, but this one is aimed more at the dominant woman, acknowledging that she will run the scene. It covers negotiation, exploration and safety for all participants, with various interesting ideas you might want to try out.
£7 free p&p
BOOKS BY ZAK JANE KEIR (signed on request)