I don’t think I ever actually participated in #SinfulSunday (as eulogised here by GirlOnTheNet – I can’t link to Molly’s site, which is something I will come back to.) Many of my friends did, and I always thought of it as a Good Thing – fun, inclusive, very high scores for body positivity and also lovely to look at. I’m just not much of a one for taking good selfies, particularly undressed ones. Just as I never considered or labelled myself as a sex blogger* despite knowing, liking and supporting many of the others: just not quite my thing. (It’s also true that when this kind of thing was at its absolute height, I had a really crappy phone with a really inadequate camera because: skint, so I tended to hunt up free-to-use images rather than taking my own.)
Over the past couple of years, a lot of the sex blogs seem to have closed down or been at least semi-shuttered, and part of the reason was almost certainly people’s lives getting in the way: it’s always been the case that many people move on from sex, clubbing, parties and rock and roll after a few years and, in some cases, people dabbled because it was the Big Thing of the day and perceived by some as money for almost nothing… and, sure, a lot of the bandwagon-jumpers who faded away after a couple of months had little to say in the first place.
#SinfulSunday was one that stuck around, though, as was Molly’s Daily Kiss, the site that hosted it. You MIGHT get through to the site if you are lucky and prepared… but you might get a message telling you no: no naughtiness for you.
Molly’s entirely understandable decision to shutter is a big deal, and something you should care about, even if you missed out on the glory days of sex blogging. Because #SinfulSunday, like a lot of the still-going blogs and sites that were worth reading, has been clobbered by a change in the law. Which has benefited no-one, wasn’t wanted by anyone but pearl-clutching nutjobs and backroom fascists in the first place, and is another indication of just how much worse things are getting.
People really need spaces to talk openly about sex, sexuality, bodies and pleasure. #SInfulSunday was one of those spaces: always welcoming and non-judgemental. And now it’s gone. How many more of your rights, or other people’s rights, are you prepared to lose?
(Here’s another post from another blogger..)
*Yes, some of the earliest posts on here are sort of sex-blog-ish, mostly when I wasn’t sure what I was doing with this site… Though for some reason this one still remains one of the top five most read posts.