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Blissemas: some festive femdom and an extra prize

Christmas, erotica, femdom, Festive, story 12th December 2017 Events, Other Things, Sex stuff 5 Comments

Happy Blissemas! Yes, the season’s well under way now so this fun online smut party is running once again, with some great names having already shared their Christmassy/Midwinterish/Yuletiding ideas. As well as any comment on this post automatically putting you … Continued

‘Witch hunts’, whiners, predators and prudes

consent, politics, predatory behaviour, sexuality, whiners 3rd November 2017 Other Things, Rantings, Sex stuff

It didn’t take long for the whiners to show up, but then I didn’t expect it to. Some of them whined about ‘witch hunts’ (not noticing, of course, the irony in using a term that referenced what is often regarded … Continued

You CAN have lots of sex and no regrets.

casual sex, erotica, literature, regrets 2nd October 2017 Musings, Other Things, Sex stuff, Uncategorised

This Guardian piece about the way women, in particular, are always portrayed as miserable, messed up and self-hating if they have a lot of casual sex reminds me of the other tiresome old concept – that erotic fiction is only … Continued

Rejection: Coping and Not Being A Dick

acceptance, authors, harassment, Rejection, writing 13th September 2017 Musings, Other Things

No one likes being rejected. No shit, Sherlock. However kindly the rejection is worded, however reasonable the grounds for saying No might be, it’s always going to sting – a little or a lot. You offer something you think is … Continued

Hot Topics, Taboos and Self-Censorship

authors, censorship, taboo, writing 27th August 2017 Musings, Other Things

Is there anything you shouldn’t write about, when it comes to fiction? I made a quick trip to Chaptercon on Friday, to take part in one of the discussion panels, and the concept of taboos was something we touched on. … Continued

Gender, archetype, canon and #DrWho

17th July 2017 Musings, Other Things

Predictably, a million entitled, stupid, misogynistic manbabies are shitting all over the Internet at the news that the next Doctor is going to be played by a woman. Equally predictably, there are some good jokes at the expense of said … Continued

Pride With Bells On – How Joyously We Danced.

#PrideInLondon, bisexual, dancing, erotica, lesbian, LGBTQ, Pride 10th July 2017 Events, Musings, Other Things

#PrideInLondon, pride, bells, LGBTQ, Morris dancing

The first rainbows were on the tram platform: flags and glitter make-up. Instant conversation starter. I was in my kit, without my ribbons as yet, rainbow necklace, earrings and shades.Two or three more encounters on the way: all cheerful, excited, … Continued

Charity, generosity and opportunistic bandwagon-jumping.

altruism, charity, kindness, music, opportunism 22nd June 2017 Other Things, Rantings

It’s not that there’s anything inherently wrong with charity, or with selling a specific product to raise funds for a specific cause. (Well, actually, there are some interesting arguments about the ethics of charitable giving here, for those interested.) It’s … Continued

Authenticity, passion and how art work is work

artists, authentic, entitlement, free, payment 13th June 2017 Other Things, Rantings

Among phrases I avoid because they are so overused as to be the special preserve of dickweeds, mainly, is ‘Check your privilege.’ But I felt like it earlier, when I spotted yet another idiot trying to assert that people who … Continued

Crisis, Danger, Opportunity and Lipstick

adult industry, erotica, lipstick, opportunity, porn 17th May 2017 Events, Musings, Other Things

opportunity, sex industry, lipstick, erotica

You’ve probably heard, more than once, the idea that the Chinese ideogram for ‘crisis’ is a mix of the symbols meaning ‘danger’ and ‘opportunity.’ Perhaps unsurprisingly, this isn’t quite true. It’ll still probably pop up fairly frequently on your social … Continued