Sex stuff

#Ssos and why this community matters

#Ssos, censorship, erotica, media, Patreon, sexuality 28th October 2017 Rantings, Sex stuff 2 Comments

Ssos, sex-positive, erotica, adult industry

This week’s Big News for all of us whose work involves sex in any way is more of the same, depressing shit. First, Patreon, which was proving a good income generator for writers, artists, photographers, film-makers dealing with erotic/adult themes, … Continued

You CAN have lots of sex and no regrets.

casual sex, erotica, literature, regrets 2nd October 2017 Musings, Other Things, Sex stuff, Uncategorised

This Guardian piece about the way women, in particular, are always portrayed as miserable, messed up and self-hating if they have a lot of casual sex reminds me of the other tiresome old concept – that erotic fiction is only … Continued

Paintball and perversion: all the fun of the Hunt.

domination, femdom, huntress, paintball, roleplay 26th June 2017 Events, Sex stuff 4 Comments

The first time I went paintballing was back in 1989. I remember it was a very, very hot day, which meant the bulky overalls were a little fragrant towards the end of the afternoon. I also remember I wrote my … Continued

Fetish Club Fantasy vs Reality

fetish club, location, party, sex club, venue 23rd April 2017 Musings, Sex stuff

It’s another of those understandably popular tropes in the more generic of erotic novels: the (invariably discovering-her-true-submissive-nature) heroine gets taken to The Special Fetish Club. It’s usually in a mansion, or a luxury hotel, and everyone’s not just gorgeous but … Continued

A Startled and Delighted Pornstar

erotic, films, London Porn Film Festival, Pandora Blake, porn 12th April 2017 Events, Sex stuff

The mere existence of last week’s London Porn Film Festival would be delightful enough in its own right. An entire weekend of transgressive, indie, ethical, queer, absurdist, startling and utterly filthy porn: what’s not to like? Notably, few, if any, of … Continued

Same old bad sex advice

advice, celibacy, clickbait, mental health, sex, wellbeing 29th March 2017 Musings, Sex stuff

Another crap sex ‘advice’ article seems to be doing the rounds; one on what seems to be a perennially popular theme. What Will Happen To You If You Don’t Do The Sex. I’m not linking to any specific one, given … Continued

Rule 34 Call: Get Your Weird Kink On

bizarre, book, erotica, extreme sex, fetish, fiction, kinky, sex, strange, weird, writing 10th January 2017 New Books, Sex stuff

erotic tree, weird, phallic shape, strange fetish, kink, bizarre

Previous inspirations for anthologies have generally come out of conversations with other authors – or readers – either online or down the pub somewhere. Rule 34 was inspired by a workshop I put together for Smut Manchester at the end … Continued

A festive story…

erotica, seasonal, snow, story, winter 23rd December 2016 Other Things, Sex stuff

As it’s very nearly Christmas, here’s a free wintry, chilly, snowy – but fairly hot – story about a swingers’ party. This one was originally published in the Nexus anthology Silk and Strangers a couple of years ago. Enjoy your … Continued

Bad Business: How to Shoot Yourself In the Dick

asshats, business, exposure, rip-off, sex bloggers, start up, writing 7th October 2016 Rantings, Sex stuff 4 Comments

As business models go, ‘getting established, successful people to work for you without paying them’ probably sounds like a wonderful idea. ‘Getting lots of people to work for you without paying them very much, or guaranteeing them any employment rights’, … Continued

Writing Real Sex

authenticity, club reviews, erotica, sex, swingers, truth 10th August 2016 Musings, Sex stuff

While I’ve never tried sex blogging as such, I did have a nice sideline last century and the beginning of this one which involved writing about trips to various fetish and swinger clubs, with free rein to not any actual … Continued