Sex stuff

Fetish History: Der Putsch at the Museum of Sex Objects

art exhbition, fetish history, museum of sex objects 20th September 2022 Events, Other Things, Sex stuff

I’ve written a few times about fetish clubs, particularly the history and reality of them.as distinct from the fetish party tropes you get in some erotica. So naturally I wanted to go and listen to Steve from Der Pustch about … Continued

A Kinky Little Victory

authorities, fetish club, legal win, victory 3rd August 2022 Musings, Sex stuff

Possibly “the most important victory in SM rights since Spanner” (according to specialist sexual freedoms lawyer Myles Jackman) took place last week. (If you click on the link, you will need to scroll past the first decision, which refers to … Continued

Toys, triggers and trouble

dark fantasies, fantasies, limits, sex toys 13th June 2022 Musings, Sex stuff

Like more people than you think, I have avoided, as far as possible, paying much attention to the misogyny shitshow that was the broadcasting of the Heard/Depp trial. (And, whatever you think about who was right and who was wrong, … Continued

Consent, Reality and Fantasy

#idoconsent, authors, consent, dubcon, erotica, writing 22nd November 2020 Musings, Sex stuff, writing

Whatever you might like to get up to in your own personal sex life, you know (or at least you should) that one of the most important aspects is being sure that everyone involved gives informed consent to everything that … Continued

Is It Ok To Wank At Work?

anthology, erotica, masturbation, Sex at work 13th June 2019 Musings, Sex stuff

It was only a couple of years ago that the idea of workplace wankbreaks was being touted in some fairly mainstream places. Not just for erotica writers, either: OK, for some of is it’s not so much about taking a … Continued

Milkshake F*ck – Erotic flash fiction

erotic fiction, erotica, fiction, genre fiction, kinky, politics 24th May 2019 New Books, Other Things, Sex stuff

***POST UPDATED 04-01-2020*** I wrote this story for a laugh – of sorts – back in the summer. As the weeks went by, the whole political mess began to prey on my mind more and more, so I wrote some … Continued

Shenanigans and Sharing the Goodies

authors, books, erotica, event, sexy, Shenanigans 11th April 2019 Events, Sex stuff

sharing goodies, sex toys, lube, erotica, event

Getting myself sorted out for another bout of Shenanigans in Wellington this weekend, I’ve been sorting out the current accumulation of loot that I have to share rather than to sell. The ETO Show provided a magnificent goody bag, and … Continued

Not Hot For Teacher

kink, learning, sexy, teaching, writing 4th April 2019 Musings, Sex stuff

There seems to have been another issue recently with some fetish teacher/educator being outed as a creepy fuck. Colour me unsurprised. If ever there was a soft target for manipulative egotrippers it’s ‘educating’ people about how to do BDSM. I … Continued